Allison Kimmey es una escritora de libros de autoayuda que nos ha dado una bonita lección en su perfil de Instagram. La mujer publicó hace unos días su reacción cuando su hija la llamó gorda:
“Hoy mi hija me ha llamado gorda. Ella estaba enfadada porque les hice salir de la piscina y entonces le dijo a su hermano que mamá está gorda”.
Allison habló con su hija, y le explicó que la grasa es algo que todo el mundo tiene en su cuerpo, y que sirve para proteger huesos y músculos: “Gordo no es una mala palabra en nuestra casa. Si regaño a mis hijos por decirlo les estoy dando a entender que es una palabra insultante y mantengo el estigma de que estar gordo es indigno, desagradable, cómico e indeseable”.
“Quiero que los padres vean que la voz que más alto deberían escuchar nuestros hijos es la nuestra, independientemente del ruido exterior que haya. Fundamental elegir las palabras con cuidado y estar dispuestos a mantener estas conversaciones complejas”.
✋🏼STOP SCROLLING✋🏼Hey babes!! Up bright and early with a very important message that you NEED to hear! Sometimes I get all cozy and snuggled up in my little body positive and self love bubble. It’s warm there, and there’s rainbows and the best jams and only the most magical people. I have worked tirelessly to make this little bubble for myself. But sometimes I have to take a day trip to “real world” and get a little dose of what I call *this is why I do what you do* What I mean by that is: there’s a lot of hate in this world…and people are ready to bring you down at any chance of finally feeling more worthy themselves. I see aggression in people but I see pain too. I’m not here to educate the unwilling or make excuses for the ignorant- but I am constantly reminded that I am here for you, beautiful soul, the one that doesn’t have your impenetrable self love bubble built yet and can’t see a way out of judgement and self depreciating thoughts. And there’s something I need you to know: no matter how much you change- your circumstances, your body, your finances, your job, your relationship status – You are worthy of JOY, LOVE, OPPORTUNITY, and probably the most important and least received: RESPECT. NOW. NEXT MONTH. NEXT YEAR. THIS ENTIRE LIFETIME. IN ANOTHER LIFE. FOREVER. INFINITY. And on that same note, allowing others to shine in THEIR light will never dim what only YOU can offer to the world. So let’s light it up! The whole dam world. With love, and kindness, and pure joy, and respect! And babe, if you want to come inside my self love bubble- there’s an invitation waiting for you with the link in my profile! Isn’t it time you started allowing yourself to feel worthy of these things? Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie _______ #justdoyoucrew #bopo #bodypos #bodypositive #selflove #transformationtuesday #confidence #youareworthy #embracethesquish #everybodyisbeautiful
Hey babes!! This is a repost of an important conversation I had with my daughter that subsequently reached over 18 million people. While it has been an amazing learning tool for adults – I have chosen to use this moment as an opportunity to create a body confidence children’s book. ⭐️⭐️I am seeking an illustrator for the book that has a passion for BoPo and spreading the message of self love to children. ⭐️⭐️ This is a low budget self-published passion project, trying to do my very best with limited resources! I am looking for fun, colorful and whimsy, not too lifelike, more of a cute cartoon character that’s sweet and charismatic. I would love it to be a young woman that is really fun to work for possible future collaborations as well. If you’re interesting in submitting a sample to be considered as the illustrator for the project please send portfolio of a visual illustration of my daughter and I, like in this photo, using the contact button in my profile along w a short bio! The premise of the story line is based on this conversation: ❣️IT MATTERS HOW WE TALK TO OUR DAUGHTERS ABOUT OUR BODIES! ❣️ Today while I was laying at the pool with my daughter: Her: “Why is your tummy big mama?” Me: “What do you mean baby?” Her: “These lines, mama.” (Pointing to stretch marks on my tummy) Me: “oh those are my stretch marks!” Her: “Where do they come from?” Me: “well when I was a little older than you, I got some stripes when I grew really fast! And some of these stripes are from when I had you growing in my tummy” Her: looking inquisitively Me: “They are shiny and sparkly, aren’t they pretty?” Her: “yes, I like this one the best, it’s so glittery. When can I get some?” Me: “oh you will get your glitter stripes when you get a little bit older baby!” They are listening. They are asking. And it is up to YOU to help them shape how they will feel about these things! Will you continue the shame that society has placed on you? Or will you teach her a new way of love? I choose love 💕💕💕 Just do you Xoxo Allie
My son is obsessed with his muscles. He’s a very athletic boy, and pretty much is sporting a 6 pack already. He’s a 6 year old Kindergartener and oh does he SEE BODIES. He observes them, he finds differences and he is CURIOUS. Any time a body doesn’t look like his, he instantly compares. “Mama, that fat boy was slow, he was the last one running” my son announced after watching the high school football players practice. “There is always going to be someone at the end, buddy. But you know what’s cool?” “What mama?” “Every single boy here, no matter how fast or slow, short or tall, skinny or fat has a spot on dada’s football team! You know why?” “Why mama?” “Because every person is really great at different things. And just because that boy was slower, and you couldn’t see his muscles like you can see yours, doesn’t mean he isn’t STRONG and super important to the whole team.” “Okay mama, you’re right!” Each time a comment like this surfaces I have to ask myself, and my husband, how are we going to respond. First of all, fat is NOT a bad word in our house. By shaming them for using this word it just perpetuates the fear of fat and makes it an insulting word. Secondly, we know that his questions come from a place of curiosity, and the way we respond will shape his belief system of either acceptance or discrimination. I especially like to get my husband involved when we talk about bodies with my son, and thankfully, we both always show our bodies and are very comfortable and confident within them, as well as never talk badly about ourselves. But he also has brought new ways of making bopo engaging for my son. Football is a constant in our house, and it is a wonderful way for us to explain the importance of ALL bodies to him so that he can see a real life scenario where all walks of life work together and each player depends on the other player to show his greatness, no matter his size. The most important takeaway each time is that each person is strong in their own way. And regardless if they may not have visible muscles or might be a little slower, each person deserves to be treated with respect and kindness. Just do you babes Xoxo Allie
Celebrating Mother’s Day with one of my all time favorite moments with my daughter: Today while I was laying at the pool with my daughter: Her: “Why is your tummy big mama?” Me: “What do you mean baby?” Her: “These lines, mama.” (Pointing to stretch marks on my tummy) Me: “oh those are my stretch marks!” Her: “Where do they come from?” Me: “well when I was a little older than you, I got some stripes when I grew really fast! And some of these stripes are from when I had you growing in my tummy” Her: looking inquisitively Me: “They are shiny and sparkly, aren’t they pretty?” Her: “yes, I like this one the best, it’s so glittery. When can I get some?” Me: “oh you will get your glitter stripes when you get a little bit older baby!” IT MATTERS HOW WE TALK TO OUR DAUGHTERS ABOUT OUR BODIES! They are listening. They are asking. And it is up to YOU to help them shape how they will feel about these things! Will you continue the shame that society has placed on you? Or will you teach her a new way of love? I choose love 💕💕💕 Just do you Xoxo Allie
I often use these side by sides for a reverse transformation but today these photos have a different purpose. There’s so many changes in these two photos from the obvious size difference to the lesser obvious mental shift, but one thing has NEVER changed and that is that no matter size, health, circumstances, past, interests, abilities…I AM WORTHY. In the spring of 2008 I forced my body to get down to a size 2/4. I would dream about going into Kleinfeld’s for my final wedding dress fitting and blowing away the seamstresses because they’d have to take in my dress two more sizes because I’d lost so much weight. That didn’t actually happen, the size 8/10 dress they had ordered actually fit perfect and a big part of me was upset that I hadn’t worked harder to be smaller. But regardless of my mental state or my deteriorating health due to the pressures I had placed on myself – I was still worthy of joy, love, opportunity, respect. And I still honor that girl that I was because she taught me so much and became the catalyst for massive change. Fast forward nearly 10 years and a fluctuation of 100 pounds between yo yo diets, two pregnancies, and a whole host of other “circumstances” I now inhabit a size 18 body. I am so much more mindful of my movement, my food choices, my dialogue choices, what I spend my time doing, and my desire to impact all women with my message of self love…I have truly found my magic. And regardless of my current size or my love for strutting around in string bikinis, I am worthy of joy, love, opportunity, respect. The point is, I spent my life measuring my worth by a thousand different “success markers” from weight loss to financial gain and everything in between. I compared my life, my body, my path to everyone around me, and when you do that, YOU NEVER FEEL FULFILLMENT and you never feel worthy. You might not “be where you want to be” but remember this: no matter where you are in your journey, YOUR JOURNEY *not anyone else’s* YOU ARE WORTHY of joy, love, opportunity, respect. Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie
Hey babes!! Here for a little #transformationtuesday action! I love taking part in this trend in hopes that I may show someone who struggled like myself for years of torture for not being thin enough that there is nothing waiting on the other side of weight loss that you can’t achieve right now by embracing yourself. That woman on the left was miserable- and if you ask me- she LOOKS miserable. Constantly dieting and bingeing. Going green to going crazy. Yo yo. Up – down. My weight and my mood fluctuated together. But no matter how much weight I lost, I never saw any gains in my mindset. It was never enough. I WAS NEVER ENOUGH. The most important thing I’ve gained over the last 3 years is a sense of self. Going from not being able to answer “who is Allie” with any sort of conviction to now living fully in my purpose every single moment of the day. I encourage you to ask yourself what are you after right now? Do you think weight loss will solve all your problems? Are you trying to attain something for reasons that don’t actually inspire you? Could there be another solution waiting for you…WITHIN you…right now? I did gain a few sizes, but I also gained my life back too. Weight loss is not the enemy. And gaining weight is not the solution. Our bodies will fluctuate our entire lives. Having compassion for yourself and relearning all the reasons why you should love who you- that IS the answer. Can you give me one reason you love YOU in the comments? Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie _______ #transformationtuesday #bodylove #bodypos #bopo #bodypositive #selflove #selfconfidence #justdoyou #inspire #fitspo #allbodiesaregoodbodies #nowrongway